Cishe wonke umuntu omele ubulili obuhle uhlale ekhathazekile ngombuzo wokuthi ungaba kanjani owesifazane ongcono? Ngemuva kwalokho, sivame ukuthanda thina, lapho sibheka esibukweni, futhi, njengamanye. Ngakho-ke akuyona into emangalisayo ukuthi bonke abesifazane bafuna ukuba abahle kubo, kumyeni wabo, nakubangane. Ngifuna ukuzizwa nginelisekile nami. Kodwa uyini, lo mhle ongaqondakali wonke umuntu othanda khona? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kubonakala sengathi wonke amantombazane azama ukwenza into efanayo, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi kuvela ukuthi okulungile kuhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu, futhi izindlela zokufeza, nazo. Kodwa ake sibone okungenani ngokujwayelekile ukuthi umuntu angaba kanjani ekahle, futhi yini okudingeka yenziwe ukwenza lokhu.
Ungaba kanjani ophelele kukho konke?
Ngokuqinisekile, awukwazi ukusho lokho okulungile - lena intombazane enye into eyodwa engenza kahle. Isibonelo, ugqoka kahle, noma ulungisa kahle. Cha, le ntombazane, uma iphelele, ihlanganisa zonke izimfanelo ezinhle. Ugqoke kahle, futhi upheka okumnandi, futhi ufundiswa ngokwanele, futhi uyazi ukuthi aziphathe kanjani emphakathini, futhi abe ngumfazi omuhle. Mhlawumbe, ngokunembile ngoba lo mhle uhlanganisa izinto eziningi, ngoba iningi alikwazi ukuthola. Kodwa, nokho, kunamantombazane ambalwa angathiwa ekahle. Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke amaphuzu ukuthi intombazane enhle kufanele ibonakale nokuthi yini okufanele ikwazi ukuyenza.
Izembatho kanye nokwakheka. Okokuqala, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungaphumelela kanjani ngaphandle. Yiqiniso, lokhu akuyona into ebaluleke kunazo zonke, kodwa wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ahlangene, okokuqala, izingubo, bese esecubungula ezinye izimfanelo zomuntu siqu. Intombazane ekahle iyakwazi ukugqoka kahle futhi yenza ukwakheka ukuze kugcizelele sonke isithunzi sayo futhi ifihle amaphutha. Futhi ukubonakala kwalo, okuyiqiniso, kuyoba mnandi wonke umuntu ozungezile, kodwa into esemqoka ukuzijabulisa ngokwakho.
Umfanekiso kanye nempilo. Okwesibili, okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe ngokwakho, intombazane enhle kufanele ibe nenani elihle. Wonke umuntu manje uyazi ukuthi isimo esihle sibukeka kanjani, kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu olungele ukunikela nge chocolate elimnandi ukulibona esibukweni. Kodwa intombazane enesifiso sokuhle, kufanele iphile ngendlela enempilo, idlale imidlalo futhi ikwazi ukuziphika ezifisweni ezingadingekile.
Ukuziphatha nabanye kanye nemfundo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, intombazane efanelekayo kufanele ikwazi ukuziphatha. Imikhuba yakhe kufanele ihlonishwe: ukumamatheka okumnandi, ukuzimisela ukusiza, ukuzithoba. Futhi akusizi nje wena emsebenzini noma ekhaya, kodwa ekhaya. Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni akufanele kube khona nje uthando noma ukukhathazeka - imizwa enezici ngokushesha, kodwa futhi inhlonipho. Futhi, intombazane efanelekayo kufanele ifundwe kahle futhi ifundiswe - lokhu akufanele kukhohliwe, kanye nemikhuba efanele.
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