Ukuhlukaniswa yindoda

Phakathi kwenani elikhulu lemikhuba yemilingo, ukuthandwa kakhulu kutholakala ukubhula ngumuntu. Ngiyabonga, lona wesifazane unethuba lokuthola ukuthi uthanda kangakanani lo mthandekayo wakhe, izinhloso zakhe zangempela kanye nolunye ulwazi olubaluleke kakhulu.

Ukuhlukaniswa ngamakhadi omuntu

Kunezinhlobonhlobo eziningi ezahlukene zokubhula, kodwa sizohlala ngokuningiliziwe kwenye yazo. Lolu khetho lufanelekile kulabo besifazane abangakwazi ukukhetha ukuthi yiyiphi indoda ezoqhubeka nobuhlobo obunzima, uma kukhona abalandeli abaningana. Okokuqala, udinga ukuthatha ama-jacks angu-4, qagela umuntu ngamunye futhi uhlanganise kahle. Kuzo ngamunye ngamunye, beka zonke ezinye amakhadi. Manje cabangela inqwaba yomyeni ngamunye futhi uqaphele ukuthi yiyiphi inhlanhla ekhona:

• izibungu - umuntu uyakuthanda;
• amathrekhi - lo muntu uzokuhlinzeka impilo engakhathazeki, ngokwezimali;
• amakilabhu - kusuka kulolukhethiwe ungalindela kuphela izinyembezi nokudumazeka;
• ukuphakama - kusuka kule ndoda uzoba nezingane.

Okunye ukubhula ngobuhlobo nomuntu

Lokhu okuhlukile kokubhula kuzokusiza ukuthi uthole ukuthi hlobo luni lobuhlobo bomuntu siqu luyoba nomuntu othile. Kuye, udinga ukuthatha izinaliti ezimbili, okudingeka zigcobe, isibonelo, sebenzisa ukhilimu noma amafutha omnqumo. Beka endishini yamanzi bese ubheka ukuziphatha:

• uma izinaliti zigodiwe, khona-ke kuzoba khona ama-scandals aqinile kanye nezingxabano ebuhlotsheni;
• uma izinaliti zixhunyiwe, ubuhlobo bakho buyoba namandla kakhulu futhi buhlala njalo;
• uma izinaliti sezihlakazekile ngezindlela ezahlukene, kusho ukuthi umuntu uphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho.

Ukuqagela ngemizwa yabantu

Ukukhuluma okunenhlanhla kudala kakhulu, basebenzise okhokho bethu abakude ukuba bafunde ngemizwa yomlingani. Ngenxa yale nhlanhla ungafunda ngobuqotho imizwa yomthandi. Udinga ukuyisebenzisa ngenkathi ekhulayo phakathi kwamabili. Ngaphambi kokukhipha, gxila futhi ucabange ngomthandi wakho. Khona-ke udinga ukuthatha amakhandlela amasonto amabili bese ubhala amanothi kuwo: omunye uzokusho wena, omunye. Amakhandlela kufanele abekwe eceleni, futhi phakathi kwawo abeke noma yiliphi indandatho yomshado. Khanyisa amakhandlela bese uqaphela ukuziphatha kwabo:

• uma bethandana komunye nomunye, imizwa yakho iyabelana;
• uma ngokuphambene nokuphambuka komunye nomunye, khona-ke lobu buhlobo kufanele bubekwe;
• uma ikhandlela elilodwa liyilo kanye, kanti enye ilinamathele kuyo, khona-ke lokhu kuyintando engathandeki.

Awudingi ukucima amakhandlela, kufanele ashise ngokwabo. Ungaphonsa izinti zezikhandlela ezikhandlela amakhandlela, ngoba usuvele utholile oyifunayo.