Naphezu kokuthi ukuthandwa kuyolahleka, abantu abaningi bayaqhubeka bekholelwa emandleni abo. Izinkolelo-ze zisekelwe olwazini oluqoqiwe okhokho bethu. Abantu bazama ukubona imininingwane, baqhathanise nezinye izenzakalo futhi badonse iziphetho ezithile. Ngenxa yalokhu, namuhla wonke umuntu unethuba lokubheka esikhathini esizayo.
Ukuthola ukuthi yikuphi ukuzonda isithende kusukela ekuqaleni kudingekile ukukhipha ukutholakala kwanoma yiziphi izinkinga zempilo, isibonelo, ukhunta. Ngokungafani nezinye izingxenye zomzimba, isithende sivame ukulonda izinambuzane nokucasuka kuvele kuyo. Abantu abaningi bayaqaphela ukuthi ukushaya kule ndawo kwenzeka ngokuphelele ngengozi futhi kuyanyamalala. Yingakho incazelo yemilingo ivame ukutshalwa imali kulokho okwenzekile.
Yini isithende sesokunxele esikhalayo?
Ezikhathini zasendulo abantu babekholelwa ukuthi ukuvuthwa kule ngxenye yomzimba kuyisimanga esibi. Izindaba nezinhlelo umuntu okwamanje azibandakanye kuzo ngeke zithole umphumela. Ngokuvamile, uma isithende siphulukiswa, khona-ke umuntu okwamanje uchitha isikhathi esiwusizo ngeze.
Okunye ukuhumusha kwezibonakaliso, kungani isithende sesokunxele sibheka:
- Uma ukushaywa kule ndawo kubonakala kumuntu, kusho ukuthi maduzane uzoyeka. Mhlawumbe uzoshintsha owesifazane wakhe othandekayo noma nje ukuvala indlela efanele ekuphileni. Kunolwazi lokuthi uma isithende sikhala, khona-ke esikhathini esizayo ungalindela ukuqhubekela phambili emkhakheni wezemisebenzi.
- Phakathi kwalabo bantu nabo bakholelwa kabanzi ukuthi isithende sesobunxele sibhekene nokulindeleka kokungathengiswa komuntu othandekayo.
- Isithende sithendekile ngonyawo lwesokunxele ngaphambi kohambo olude, oluzoletha izinkinga eziningi. Kubalulekile ukuthi umphumela oyifunayo awutholakali. Ngokuvamile, uhambo luyoba yize.
- Uma ukuvuza kubonakala ebusika, ke maduzane kuzoba amaqhwa amaqabunga. Lapho isithende sithenga ehlobo sibonisa isomiso nokushisa okusondelayo.
- Kuwesifazane oyedwa, isibonakaliso sinqunywe ngendlela yaso. Ukubamba isithende uthembisa umshado osheshayo noma ukukhulelwa.
- Kukhona nolwazi lokuthi uma isithende sesobunxele ishaya uphawu olubi, inkinga yokufanekisa okuzokwenzeka kumuntu ovela ezihlotsheni ezikude. Ngokushesha bayocela usizo ekuxazululeni izinkinga eziye zavela.
- Abantu basenalo olunye ukuchazwa kwale nkolelo-mfundiso - maduzane kuzodingeka bafunde izindaba ezizobe zingalungile. Ekugcineni, lokhu kuzoholela ekushintsheni emaqenjini. Isibonelo, uma uzoya emhlanganweni, kungcono ukuhlehlisa lesi senzakalo.
Kufanelekile ukuchazela isibonakaliso, kungani kukhishwa izintambo zombili. Kulesi simo, kungabonakala njengengozi yokushintsha kwesimo sezulu. Ukuvuthwa kwavela ehlobo, maduzane imvula, futhi uma ebusika, kuyoba nokushisa. Uma isithende sokunene sishaya, ungalindela izindaba ezimnandi nenhlanhla, nakuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila.
Kuze kube manje, ayikho isiqinisekiso sesayensi sezinkolelo-ze, kodwa izenzo zabo nezinzuzo ziye zazizwa abaningi.
Isiko "Isithende senhlanhla"
Kwaphela isikhathi eside abantu bakholelwa ukuthi kunamandla amaningi emilenzeni yomuntu, ngakho-ke kunemikhuba ehlukene yokuthola nokufeza
"Ngesithende sokugeza, ngomlingo, ukushaja!"
Kubalulekile ukwenza izinyathelo ezingu-27, futhi wenze konke ngobumnene, ngaphandle kokucindezela . Ukuqhuba umkhuba okunjalo kuyadingeka lapho kudingwa amandla engeziwe. Ngemuva kokushaja isithende, kubalulekile ukwenza umkhuba onjalo. Izinyawo ezinamanzi ziphakama phansi, vula isithende ama-degrees angu-360 ngehora bese uthi:
"Vula isithende sokunene (kwesokunxele), usuku lwami lonke luhamba kahle!"
Uma umlingo usebenza, maduzane uzobona ukuthi inhlanhla iseceleni kwakho.